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  • Inspiration

    Clarity in Reflection

    If you have been around for any period of time, you know that I am a person who spends a lot of time reflecting. Reflecting is what helps us have clarity when we have a cloud of fog around us. And let’s face it, we have that cloud around a lot in today’s world. Running a business, being a mom and a wife, trying to be a good friend, and all the other duties that life calls of me, it is hard sometimes to sit and reflect. Then there are days we may “try” to sit and reflect and we come up with nothing….. When I am needing some help…

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    Are you Listening?

    Are you listening? I mean truly listening? In today's fast paced world, it's a hard thing to do and is something that we need to be conscious about every single day.

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    Living With Passion

    It's hard to make sure you're living with full passion in today's fast paced world. Sometimes all you need to do it harness some memories of your past to help you find your passion again.

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    Starting Today!

    We are the ones that decide to grow or to remain the same; to stay comfortable or experience the risk of something new. Starting today!

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    Your One Little Word and How to Apply It To Life

    In 2006 Ali Edwards championed the One Little Word! Since that time, many people have been using one work to help guide them into the new year and beyond. This SIMPLE concept is one that has taken hold and has helped so many see concrete results when trying to change their life! Do you make resolutions or let one word be your guide as you travel through your year? Personally, I started the “One Little Word” a few years ago and I have to say that it has stuck with me far better than any resolution! Check out THIS POST from 2017 when my word was “COURAGE”. It’s a testament…

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    2 Steps to Claiming Your Magical JOY

    What is Joy?  According the to english dictionary is is an emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires. In order to have magical joy you have to chose yourself. Let me follow up by saying that this isn’t a post about selfishness!  Selfishness in the sense of the word is having NO CARE for others around you.  When you are done reading today, you will see what in loving yourself, you can love those around you with an even greater power! I was in the dollar spot at Target and as if being there wasn’t already my favorite; add in…

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    Strengthen Your Marriage With A Year of Dates – FREE PRINTABLE

    Building a strong marriage with a year of dates is one of the best things you can do for your relationship!  This is such an easy concept that really anyone can do. It’s an easy way to grow in not only your marriage, but in other relationships, as well. You can use it if you’re married or just dating. It can be used in friendships or with extended family members. It can even be used with each of the children in your family, separately. How to strengthen your marriage –  Give your spouse a “Year of Dates“.  Simply put, it is a pre-set series of dates that will be taken…

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    Dear Teenage Son

    Dear Son, You are foraging into tough years.  I know that and I see it.  Please know, that these years are going to be hard for me also.  Yes, I’ve been a teenager, but now I am experiencing all of it with new eyes.  Please be patient with me as I will be patient with you. Let’s get the first, and most awkward talk, out-of-the-way.  Girls.  I will have HIGH expectations for the girl you will bring around.  I will be jealous.  Yes, I know that sounds weird but you will understand when you have your own little girl.  I will understand that there will be girls you don’t bring…

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    What’s My Definition – Five Ways to Find Yours!

    At some point in everyone’s life, we all ask the question – what’s my definition? Life circumstances “shape” who we are but they don’t necessarily “define” who we are.  SHAPE means to influence the development of something or to help something become what it is. DEFINE means to state the “precise” meaning of. Clear as mud, right?!? Think of it this way… It’s time for your loved ones to plan your funeral.  You’re gone.  There will be many stories about the life that shaped who you were. Those stories are simply that – they shaped who you were as a person. What defines you (your definition) is something so much…

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    Creating A Spa On A Budget

    In home spa

    When people think of a spa they think of “expensive”.  I know I do.  While I would love to have spa days at least once a month where someone else does all of the prepping and pampering, real life doesn’t let that happen.  Creating a spa on a budget in your own home doesn’t have to be expensive though.  AND, you can get the same added benefits of paying hundreds of dollars for someone else to create one for you. Creating your own spa is easy when you use your 5 senses!  It’s that simple! Sight – candles are the first thing that people think of when it comes to…

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    Success Versus CRAP Identity?

    In order to achieve success you have to believe that you are capable of achieving it.  What is success versus crap identity?  Many of us have a lot of CRAP that we tell ourselves.   That we aren’t smart enough or good enough.  We have limiting beliefs inside of us that hold us back from the true successes that are within our reach.  Another CRAP thought is “I’m stuck!”.  It’s those limiting beliefs that keep us from moving forward.  You become frustrated and have difficult times because of these limiting beliefs.  That CRAP is what is keeping you from succeeding.  Simply put, you are letting that CRAP be your identity!  If…

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    How To Manifest Your Success In 6 Easy Steps

    “It’s never too late to be happy.”  “Today is the first day of the rest of your life.”  You’ve heard it been said before.  “Take today and move forward.”  But how do you manifest your success?  I’ve got 6 easy steps for you to implement TODAY that will put you on a FAST path to your success! These 6 steps will keep you emotionally and mentally strong to stay the path to success no matter what that means in your life. Our lives are solely in our own hands. While we can elevate others to places of great importance in our lives, ultimately if we are not happy, no one…

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    I Hope You Fail – How It Will Make You A Better Person

    I hope you fail!  I really do! When someone says “failure” usually the words that come to mind are sadness, fear, making a fool of myself, desperation, panic, shame, and heartbreak. But here’s what else you need to know about that word!  Helping, generous, openness, knowledge, bravery and courageous are all built from failure. To pretend that we can get to the latter emotions without feelings the pains of failure is a dangerous and misguided assumption. Your failure is guiding you to greater things. It is preparing you for interactions with others in which you will be viewed as the brave one and the generous one. You ever have those…

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    10 Books Every Woman MUST Read

    I LOVE reading – so much so that it can seem to take over my life sometimes.  Especially if I find a REALLY good book.  I’m sure you have all read a book like that a time or two.  There are so many benefits to reading! Reading chills you out!  Life can be pretty exhausting sometimes and picking up a good light-hearted book is the perfect medicine! It helps you focus!  Reading helps you maintain and increase your focus. Your empathy grows!  Learning and reading about other people’s lives automatically gives us more empathy to the people around us. Self-help books can ease the symptoms of depression!  They automatically give…

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    This Is YOUR Mountain to Climb and How To Do It When You Don’t Have the Energy!

      That hard time you’re in – have you ever considered that maybe it’s the mountain you’ve been assigned to tackle!?! [bctt tweet=”Maybe, you are meant to climb it and prove the strength and determination to yourse lf and God!” username=”RuffledDaisy”] Maybe, you are meant to climb it so you can share with others at the top that it IS possible! Maybe, you are supposed to forge a new path and get around it or over it in an way that is a little unconventional! This is YOUR mountain! It’s been assigned to you because GOD believes that you can handle it! [bctt tweet=”You’re going to experience wind, snow and…

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    How to Embrace Your Season of Fruitfulness

    We all have a journey and we all have a time to be great!  For each one of us, that looks and feel different. Some of us are babies and just blooming. Blooms bring newness. There is an innocence that we need to hold onto!  Blooms bring a sense of peace. Blooms are still growing and are fed from their base. We bloom for a short period of time.  There is greatness in blooming!  It’s our time of soaking in all that is around is! Some of us are the red blackberries. These are the times of hard growth. We’re aren’t yet ripe, but we have beauty. Some appreciate us … the young…

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    Reclaiming Your Life – Printable Download

    2017 for me has been a year of LOTS of changes!  Changes that were welcome and changes that weren’t.  Changes that stripped me down to my core and changes that built me up.  Every January people make resolutions with the greatest intentions that this will be “their BEST year”!  Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to start the year with such great intention and motivation.  What’s hard is coming back to the plans that you had when things get hard and life knocks you down.   You have a resolution to lose weight?  You get knocked down and off track when you get off track for a bit. You have…

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    Holding Others As We Are Held

    Babies are born with a preciousness that is beyond explanation.  The term precious means “honorable” and “of great worth not to be wasted or treated carelessly”.  We hold every newborn with a sense of preciousness.  Even in holding them, we are extra cautious..  They are innocent from the sins of the world and bring a sense of great worth when they come into being. Then we grow up.  As a toddler we commit sins in a selfish nature when we don’t want to share a certain doll or toy truck.  Simple, but nonetheless, a selfish sin.  As we grow older we may commit other, greater sins.  Maybe as a teenager…

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    Finding the Beauty in Your Struggle

    The caterpillar and the butterfly is the epitome of beauty grounded in struggle.  The process of morphing from a caterpillar into a butterfly is actually a very painful process.  It’s hard to see when we are in the middle of the struggle, but when you arrive on the other side, 99% of the time, you begin to see where the beauty was hidden or when it emerged.  Even in death there is more waiting to be seen.  For almost everything, the beauty of the struggle is there waiting to be seen. It’s no secret that I suffer from depression.  Some say it’s due to circumstances surrounding me and others say…

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    Success at Work VS Success at Home

    Business’s grow a lot faster than people do!  With the rise of social media, businesses can sky rocket through the roof and if you aren’t personally keeping up then you’ll get left behind.  This year, The Ruffled Daisy celebrated 8 years of being in business!  It’s been an amazing 8 years but it’s also been a challenging 8 years.  Running a business on your own (with just the hubby’s help) is a lot of work.  Some days were spent not giving enough to my husband and kids because the business needed me.  Some days were spent stressed and frazzled because I didn’t have enough hands or hours in the day.…

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    Thank you!

    Thank You to those that have hurt me.  You have made me a stronger person.  You have shown me who I do not want to be.  You have helped me see what I need.  You have given me the clarity when seeking relationships. Thank You to those that have loved me.  You have helped me see what love really is – even when it hurts sometimes.  You have made my heart a little bigger.  You have made my soul a little happier.  You have shown me that giving love is receiving love. Thank You to those that have believed in me.  You have made me feel worth it.  You have…

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    It’s an Ugly Beast!!

    I’ve tried for several years to make a name for me.  Something that made me feel accepted.  Something that was mine.  Something that I needed others’ approval to succeed in.  But it failed.  It’s ok.  Because in the long run, it doesn’t matter what you give and share to others, if you are doing for the glory of kudos, then you will end up empty.  You have to be doing it from your heart.  Don’t get me wrong…all of my creations and writings are from my heart, but the disconnect comes from when you are wanting to feel the acceptance from others and not always getting it.  Depression talks to…

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    Pearls of Wisdom – Jennifer Wiltse

    It is one of my heart’s desires to encourage women to be all that they can be.  Life is tough and many times, we make it harder on ourselves than we need to.  We are made to be amazing beings!  And while we ARE amazing – we are far from perfect.  Life is all about embracing our imperfections and making them beautiful. Those beautiful imperfections are what defines you.  It is in those imperfections that we are called to share and create beauty with others.  Just like a smooth marble has beauty, so does a rough and callused oyster shell.  An oyster shell is made to withstand a rough and tumble…

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    Pearls of Wisdom – Terri Brest

    It is one of my heart’s desires to encourage women to be all that they can be.  Life is tough and many times, we make it harder on ourselves than we need to.  We are made to be amazing beings!  And while we ARE amazing – we are far from perfect.  Life is all about embracing our imperfections and making them beautiful. Those beautiful imperfections are what defines you.  It is in those imperfections that we are called to share and create beauty with others.  Just like a smooth marble has beauty, so does a rough and callused oyster shell.  An oyster shell is made to withstand a rough and tumble…

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    Your Fire Will Free You

    Anger is a powerful force.  It is both beautiful and destructive.  It has the power to change yourself and the world. Anger is what brought her here again.  The place that she has been frequenting far too often.  Her anger doesn’t change who she is to please someone else.  She’s done with that.  She no longer let her tears dampen her cheeks and fall to the ground.  Her tear puddles were dry.  It took a lot of pain to be here and pain may be what keeps her here.  Her anger is beautiful in a sense that she is taking control of her life – and yet destructive in that…

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    Her Tree of Life

    She is born from a fragile seed. Planted and nourished to grow into amazingness. The seed begins to sprout and emerge from the ground showing signs of life. It faces the sun with each day and hunkers down in the darkness.  Through the years of growing and maturing, she grows stronger and taller not knowing what storms and showers will come her way. As each season passes, she embraces the changes that each brings.  In spring, her soul is on fire and she is being reborn into the creature that God created. She is pursuing her dreams and running after all the newness that life brings. She is blooming and…

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    You Are Enough Right Where You Are

    I feel deeply I didn’t used to. It took years of pain and suffering to grasp every emotion that I suppressed and in the end tried to work through and embrace. While awareness of the pain of others in the world can be a valuable way to keep our own struggles in perspective, it is not a legitimate reason to disregard our own pain. Fully experiencing our own hurt is the gateway to compassion toward other human beings. Accepting our emotions and allowing ourselves to feel them connects us to all human beings. Then, when we hear the stories of other people’s suffering, our hearts can resonate with understanding and…

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    Have Courage To Follow Your Own Path

    We don’t always know what our path is. Paths take sharp turns sometimes and other times they are gentle. Sometimes there are steep hills to climb and other times there may be downed trees to move so you can clear the way for you to continue. At the end of the path is God. Waiting for you, to tell you “job well done”. You’re gonna fall. You’re gonna skin your knee and there are times you may break some bones. You start on this path by yourself and you pick you people along the way go help you navigate it. Some of those people take a turn that you aren’t…

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    Although I Stumble, I Am Still Standing

    Your feet guide you into certainty and uncertainty. These are the feet that have trekked a life of happiness and pain. These are the feet that wearily walked into a hospital 4 times and birthed children that made me a mom. These are the feet that danced as a child and floated on air. These are the feet that walked a cemetery to bury a child. These are the feet that walked through life without a father that loved her as a father should. These are the feet that have walked away from relationships that have hurt me and that have stood their ground fighting for relationships I wanted to…

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    Middle of Nowhere or Center of Everything?

    Middle of nowhere or center of everything? Middle of nowhere – the place of no contact with anyone or anything. Lost and distant from the connection in the world around you. Nothing that you know or anything that brings you comfort is around. The place where you feel fear and anxiety. Focus is on what you lack in the world. Center of everything – the place of centeredness and centering your soul. Connecting with the world even if no one is around. The vast openness brings you comfort in knowing there are things greater than you. A place to become grounded in who you are. A place where you feel…

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    Girl On Fire

    I wear this today…not because I feel it…but because I need to believe it! It would be easy to let the depression slip it’s fingers around me and take hold. It’s one of those days…actually it’s been one of those years. I want to stay to myself and not do anything or go anywhere. This girl doesn’t feel “on fire” right now. I completely worn down.  Some are mistakes of my own that I am accepting.  Other are mistakes that I hold on to because it was complete truth to me at the time.  The accepting and moving past is hard.  The acceptance of the mistakes I’ve made is sometimes…

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    It’s Time To Live Your Dreams

    Be a BOLD girl with BIG and AMAZING DREAMS! 1. Value your time! ⏰ It’s a precious thing. Fill it with only things that inspire, encourage and grow you. If it doesn’t make you whole, let it go! 2. Know you’re a work in progress! ? Understand that you are flawed and a sinner and that you are constantly in the path to being a better you. Don’t look down on your weaknesses, look up to your strengths. Let them guide you. 3. Know that you have a beautiful mind! ? You are constantly learning and striving. You have interesting things to talk about and to teach other people. Expand…

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    Your Darkness is a GIFT

    My darkness was a gift except I didn’t see it at the time. In the darkness you search for light. In order for a light to shine so brightly, there must be darkness! In darkness you have nothing else to see but who you truly are. In the darkness you feel lost and in that lostness you learn things about you that you never knew existed. Without that darkness, you may never know what the depths of despair feels like. Without darkness, you don’t learn to fight when it’s the only thing you have. Your darkness could be depression. Your darkness could be grief. Your darkness could be addiction. Your…

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    Be a GOAL Digger

    You know those goals and dreams you have? You have to dig for them! The hard ones and the most rewarding ones don’t come easy. You gotta dig hard every single day to make a small step towards big dreams! Goals and dreams can change through time but even when they change, the digging that you’ve done in the past creates growth. While you’re digging you may come across some junk that you need to throw to the side. It’s there to be just that…junk. It’s there to distract you from digging. Think of it like digging for gemstones. You’re gonna come across some that are pretty but don’t amount to…

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    One Day Can Change Everything!

    One day can change everything.  Today a change is happening that is life-changing. I’m heading back into the work force – after 14 years of being home and raising babies and following my dreams.  This isn’t a bad thing though – The Ruffled Daisy is staying!  So my dreams of that are still going full-force forward! Life changes fast you don’t always know where they are taking you but you must trust the in magic of new beginnings. These new beginnings are going to be hard and also propel me to greater things!  It’s easy to go through life thinking you have all of the answers figured out – only…

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    Perfection is the DEVIL

    Why would anyone want to be less than perfect?  That would make life easy, right!  It seems like the easy road – but it’s that harsh inner voice telling us to be perfect that destroys us and keeps us from following the amazing path before us.  Striving and driving yourself to perfection actually destroys you.  It has at times stopped me from making art,  kept me from intimacy, and kept me from building relationships.  I didn’t want to show up unless I was perfect and it stopped me from doing so many things.  I turned down a lot of opportunities to ensure that no one found out how imperfect I was. People say…

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    FLY in Your Happiness

    You’re going to come across waves that knock you on your butt! And you’re going to come across skies so blue that you believe there is NOTHING that can stop you from achieving happiness! With two polar opposite things, it’s hard to see how sometimes you can see greatness when you’re down. The very things that push you around in life are the very things that give you lift…which enables you to FLY! Without the downs, you can’t recognize the ups and without the up’s you can’t recognize the downs. Embrace at all and FLY today!! Can happiness learned?  Some people ask if it is something that we are inherently…

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    Kind Words Lead To Kind Thoughts

    You can speak a million kind words to other people, but the ones that mean the most are the ones you speak to yourself. Those are the echoes you need to hear. This piece is hung as a daily reminder to me. Letting the ego and the devil speak words to you won’t lead you or guide you to greater things. They both speak with selfish motives. Let the kind words of your heart speak and listen to those echoes. Let them overpower those of the ego. If you don’t speak kind words to yourself, you will have no kind words to give anyone else. If you are telling yourself…

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    Progress is Sometimes Baby Steps – 3 EASY steps to your success!

    Struggles and failures are always going to happen.  They are put in your path to achieving your dreams for a purpose!  Don’t be discouraged!  The dream you have in your head is the dream GOD put there!  And HE is the one working it to fruition in HIS timing.  Sometimes that may take a different path or a different time frame than what you actually thought planned.  Stay the course! Just because you aren’t making progress of fast as you think you should be, does not mean that you aren’t making progress. When you hit the point of feeling like you aren’t making progress in your dreams, take a step…

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    Shine Your Light Amidst the Darkness

    The sun is a shining force to guide us and light the way. But the moon and the stars, although subtle, also light the way. Stars cannot shine without darkness. In order for a light to shine bright, darkness must also be present. A certain darkness is needed to see the stars. I will love the light for it shows me the way, but I will also endure the darkness because it shows me the stars. The thing dreams are made of. This is a reminder to me to shine “my” light even when I feel darkness. Darkness will devour me if I am afraid of it. I will accept…

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    Who’s Doing Your Dirty Laundry

    We have all been there – the mountain of laundry that seems to pile up no matter how often we attack it. You may wait until one day a week to tackle this feat while others, like me, attempt to do a load or two a day in order to keep it under wraps. Let me tell you, neither way works. There always seems to be more that needs to be done. LAUNDRY NEVER ENDS! But what about our other “dirty laundry”? You know the kind that we ALL carry that the world would refer to as shame. Things that have happened to us in the past, been inflicted upon…

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    Word Of The Year – COURAGE!

    Courage is a desirable quality to have and a way of life that most want to embody. But the actual act of having courage is a challenge. It means being willing to face fear and embrace uncertainty; and let's face it, life is FULL of uncertainties. Most people wait for courage to fall into their lap when circumstances are "right" to face whatever challenges are ahead of them. Not knowing what is on the other side is scary. Most people wait for the universe to give them a sign letting them know - you can be certain now! Have courage! But the universe isn't going to give that to you.

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    Making Your Life a Best-Seller!

    You life is your story!  When someone sits down to read your story, what do you want them to see?  Is your story one of love and happiness?  Is it one of struggle and pain?  Is it one of teaching?  Is it a comedy or a drama?  We all have a story to our life! If you are living in happiness or pain, you must begin to realize that if you want your story to be magnificent in its own way, then you must begin by realizing that you are the AUTHOR and everyday is a new page! So how do you do that when you struggle with where you…

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    Are You Enjoying Life Or Letting It Pass You By?

    What is ingrained in us that makes us have such a desire to do something different and rarely follow through with it? We have such a desire to do what society thinks we should yet we lose focus on what God wants us to do. Do you have a clear picture of how your days should be spent and is it line with what God wants for you? Granted, we don’t know what the path we will follow will look like BUT we can choose to make the path a scenic one along the way. During this holiday season, I resolve to document SOMETHING about every day. It could be a silly comment from my…

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    Putting on My Mask

    Here we go again. Every single morning. I hate you. I despise you. Yet I have to deal with you every…single…day for the rest of my life. You help me have “somewhat” of a normal life. You help me not be “crazy”.  You keep me “happy”. For the most part. But I hate taking you I hate having to depend on you to keep me from drowning in my life challenges that most normal people can deal with on a daily basis. I hate having my husband look at me some days and say, “have you taken your medicine?” because believe it or not, he knows when I haven’t.  I’m too difficult to deal…

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    So Goes A New Heart

    When things become dilapidated, they need repair.  You can drive down any inner-city and see the amount of work that would need to be done in order to rebuild it into a thriving economy.  Things are built and then become old and need repair.  Sometimes that repair comes from the tearing down of the physical structure and rebuilding on a new foundation. So goes a new heart.  Sometimes we need to build that on a new foundation. There comes a point is some people’s lives where all of the pain and hurt that they have carried for years comes crashing down on them.  It may be the pain and hurt…

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    Cracks In Your Soul

    Normally in my daily routine of doing yardwork my mind is at ease and all I think about is the music in my ears.   Yesterday, however, I noticed some things in my yard that made me think about things in my life.  Here in Kansas we have some pretty hot summers.  Summers where we can go weeks without any rain.  This lack of rain can take a toll on the landscape around you.  As I was working in my yard, I noticed huge cracks in the grass begging to be watered.  Cracks that have been formed because the surrounding landscape has been depleted from so many of it’s needed resources. It…

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    3 SIMPLE Steps to Be.Come

    Be.Come?  What in the heck does that even mean in real life?  Maybe this is simple for you and you figured it out when you were 7 years old.  I like to do things the hard way though, so it’s taken me 40 years to even remotely begin to figure it out. Put simply, “to become” means to begin to be or be something specified (to have a specific quality, to look attractive on, to be flattering to, to be suitable for, to be proper for). Isn’t that what we all want?  To have a specific quality that we LIVE for?  A quality that makes us attractive to others –…

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    Let God Consume You More Than Life

    Life struggles are there to help you have a heart and understanding for others who have struggled in the same way.  I can feel the positive growth in my current struggles, but damn…it’s painful. When you’ve been one way your whole life and you have a soul awakening and the things you have prayed about for years start changing…it’s scary…and bittersweet. Joy is in my heart because my life’s prayers are finally being answered and so many questions about why are being answered…but along with it comes pain. Pain because it’s change and it’s different. That’s scary as hell. Being someone who always thought she adapted to change well, I…

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    40 Quirks for 40 Years

    To start with, I should have created this list when I was 20.  It’s much easier to come up with 20 unique things versus 40!  Try it!!  Since it’s my birth month and I’ll be 40, I thought I would share some of my uniqueness with you.  Here we go:  As a child I wanted to legally change my name to Barbara.  I’m thankful my mother didn’t let me follow through with that.  I still love the name, but I am so thankful and blessed for the family name I have. Twizzlers are my FAVORITE candy….like I could eat bags upon bags.  It’s really ridiculous. I adored Kenny Rogers as…

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    Defining Life

    Words define you!  Words define life!  One simple word can bring such emotion to a person because of the stories and experiences it brings to mind. Here at The Ruffled Daisy, simple words potray profound emotions!  People look to words to help define their roles in their home and workplace.  A couple months ago, I put a call out to my faithful FB followers and asked them to give me one word that they used to define their life. The responses were amazing!   I gathered those words from all of you and created a new line called, DEFINING LIFE!  This was a fun project for me because I got…

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    Your Blessings Start at Home

    “Create a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside”.  Let’s face it, there are some days where life just feels downright crummy on the inside!  We get “stuck” in the day to day treachery of living the best life we can and sometimes we can barely see above the pile of dirty laundry or dishes to ever see where we can be a blessing to others.  I’ve always likened life to a series of mountains and valleys.  We all hit the valleys of despair and rise to the mountain tops to rejoice!  You can’t have one without the other.  After every…

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    Drawing Your Map!

    Today, our furnace went out.  Driving all over town looking for a part when it’s 5 degrees outside is not my idea of fun.  I definitely have more important and pressing things to do.  I stopped at Starbucks for a Skinny Caramel Macchiato.  Surely that would make me feel better.  Nope, it didn’t.  Now I wanted to stuff my face with chocolate or a freshly baked cookie.  I hate stress eating!!  It’s gotten worse in the recent past  That’s another story for another day though. I pressed on with my irritating day and just did what needed to be done.  Got the part I needed so that I could be…

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    Affirmations and Validation

    It’s no secret.  I need validation.  It’s a part of who I am.  Is that narcissistic?  Maybe.  Is it selfish?  Maybe.  But the fact of the matter is that I do.  On a daily basis I look for the approval of others to complete daily tasks and make certain decisions.  I worry about what so-and-so will think if I make this decision and that. You may ask yourself how that is possible for someone who is such a hermit.  Well, it’s complicated.  And my therapist loves that I pay her big bucks to figure this out. So yes…I need affirmation and validation from  people on a daily basis.  Which is…

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    Refocus

    As another year closes, I am reminded of the blessings I have received from The Ruffled Daisy. The last two weeks of the year always brings a time of relaxation for me. It’s a time to celebrate with family and enjoy the small amount of time away from business to recollect all my thoughts about the year I have completed and plan for the future. As I file away past orders, brainstorming files and notes I am reminded of the special pieces “you” have asked me to design. Pieces that have signified new births and new marriages. Pieces that have been created to remember loved ones passed. Many custom family…

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    I Am

    “I Am”   I am tired and broken. I wonder who shares in my pain and sorrow. I hear the oceans speak. I see a princess in a castle. I want to be free to know my soul completely. I am tired and broken.   I pretend to know who I am. I feel the sun kiss my skin. I touch the light of the moon. I cry for my angel. I am tired and broken.   I understand pain. I say “believe and have faith”. I dream of internal quietness. I try to do my best. I hope my chaotic soul is quieted. I am tired and broken.  

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    I See You

    Dear Friend, I see you. I see you laughing at a park playdate smiling and chatting with other moms as you push your toddler on the swing while keeping another eye on your five-year old climbing on monkey bars.  I see you dressed in the latest fashionable chevron scarf to match your perfectly chosen outfit.  I see you going on dates with your husband and on ladies night with your girlfriends in order to nurture each of those relationships so that they fulfill your desires.  I see you going to church and bible studies and trekking your kids to all of the activities that you put them in to help…

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    Roller Coaster Wounds

    I’ve heard people say that life is a roller coaster and you don’t always know where it is taking you.  It can have its series of ups and downs and where you feel like you’re being turned inside out.  You will also have patches of where you are able to leisurely enjoy the ride and bask in the lack of excitement for the moment.  There is an operator on that roller coaster and they know what’s next in the journey although you may not. My life has been on a roller coaster of sorts lately.  It seems to be a roller coaster that is out of control though.   The operator…

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    Let Go of YOUR Knives!

    Knives are sharp.  When used properly, they serve a purpose.  When used improperly, they inflict pain. I was at dinner with my husband this past weekend and typical of many dinners without kids, we had the chance to talk about things other than sports and what the kids wanted.  When that happens, we tend to talk about our own wins and losses for the week.  Sometimes the wins are greater and sometimes the losses are greater.  On this particular evening, my hubby was venting about a few things he was feeling.  Let me remind you that we are polar opposites in the way that we see and deal with things. …

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    Love and Commitment

    Love and Commitment.  These words go hand in hand when you are talking about marriage.  That doesn’t mean that it all comes easy though. In the beginning, it’s all easy.  You meet someone you are attracted to, want to spend all of your time with, and share all of your life dreams with.  It’s easy.  You love this person with your whole being.  You want to commit to making this person the happiest and vice versa.  You envision a life of nothing but happiness because you vow to let nothing keep you from that. Then it gets hard.  Life gets hard.  You create a family.  You share this oneness but…

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    I Need This Reminder Today

    Today, I need this reminder. Let them be little! Stained carpets, messy rooms, fingerprinted walls… Little white lies, hiding from trouble,  dishonesty… I must remember that these are all parts of growing up…. Let them be little…for they won’t be like this for long! I love my kiddos.  I don’t think they always “feel” it though.

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    A Gentle Reminder

    My Work I have the greatest work in the world; The job of rocking a baby to sleep, That of guiding his tottering feet, A baby’s clothes to launder and fold, A precious life to shape and mold, A drink to give from a little cup, At night his toys to gather up, Hurts to heal and fears to quell, A baby to keep clean and well, A stack of diapers to put, Oh, what a happy worthwhile day! I am a “Mother.” I have the greatest work in to world; A husband to encourage when things go wrong, When he comes from work to greet with a song, Denims…