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    Putting on My Mask

    Here we go again. Every single morning. I hate you. I despise you. Yet I have to deal with you every…single…day for the rest of my life. You help me have “somewhat” of a normal life. You help me not be “crazy”.  You keep me “happy”. For the most part. But I hate taking you I hate having to depend on you to keep me from drowning in my life challenges that most normal people can deal with on a daily basis. I hate having my husband look at me some days and say, “have you taken your medicine?” because believe it or not, he knows when I haven’t.  I’m too difficult to deal…

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    So Goes A New Heart

      When things become dilapidated, they need repair.  You can drive down any inner-city and see the amount of work that would need to be done in order to rebuild it into a thriving economy.  Things are built and then become old and need repair.  Sometimes that repair comes from the tearing down of the physical structure and rebuilding on a new foundation.   So goes a new heart.  Sometimes we need to build that on a new foundation.   There comes a point ns some people’s lives where all of the pain and hurt that they have carried for years comes crashing down on them.  It may be the…

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    Cracks In Your Soul

    Normally, in my daily routine of doing yardwork, my mind is at ease and all I think about is the music in my ears.   Yesterday, however, I noticed some things in my yard that made me think about things in my life.  Here in Kansas we have some pretty hot summers.  Summers where we can go weeks without any rain.  This lack of rain can take a toll on the landscape around you.  As I was working in my yard, I noticed huge cracks in the grass begging to be watered.  Cracks that have been formed because the surrounding landscape has been depleted from so many of its needed resources.…

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    3 SIMPLE Steps to Be.Come

    Be.Come?  What in the heck does that even mean in real life?  Maybe this is simple for you and you figured it out when you were 7 years old.  I like to do things the hard way though, so it’s taken me 40 years to even remotely begin to figure it out. Put simply, “to become” means to begin to be or be something specified (to have a specific quality, to look attractive on, to be flattering to, to be suitable for, to be proper for). Isn’t that what we all want?  To have a specific quality that we LIVE for?  A quality that makes us attractive to others –…

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    Let God Consume You More Than Life

    Life struggles are there to help you have a heart and understanding for others who have struggled in the same way. I can feel the positive growth in my current struggles, but damn…it’s painful. When you’ve been one way your whole life and you have a soul awakening and the things you have prayed about for years start changing…it’s scary…and bittersweet. Joy is in my heart because my life’s prayers are finally being answered and so many questions about why are being answered…but along with it comes pain. Pain because it’s change and it’s different. That’s scary as hell. Being someone who always thought she adapted to change well, I…

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    40 Quirks for 40 Years

    To start with, I should have created this list when I was 20.  It’s much easier to come up with 20 unique things versus 40!  Try it!!  Since it’s my birth month and I’ll be 40, I thought I would share some of my uniqueness with you.  Here we go:  As a child I wanted to legally change my name to Barbara.  I’m thankful my mother didn’t let me follow through with that.  I still love the name, but I am so thankful and blessed for the family name I have. Twizzlers are my FAVORITE candy….like I could eat bags upon bags.  It’s really ridiculous. I adored Kenny Rogers as…

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    Defining Life

    Words define you!  Words define life!  One simple word can bring such emotion to a person because of the stories and experiences it brings to mind. Here at The Ruffled Daisy, simple words portray profound emotions!  People look to words to help define their roles in their home and workplace.  A couple months ago, I put a call out to my faithful FB followers and asked them to give me one word that they used to define their life. The responses were amazing! I gathered those words from all of you and created a new line called, DEFINING LIFE!  This was a fun project for me because I got to…

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    Your Blessings Start at Home

    “Create a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside”.  Let’s face it, there are some days where life just feels downright crummy on the inside!  We get “stuck” in the day to day treachery of living the best life we can and sometimes we can barely see above the pile of dirty laundry or dishes to ever see where we can be a blessing to others.  I’ve always likened life to a series of mountains and valleys.  We all hit the valleys of despair and rise to the mountain tops to rejoice!  You can’t have one without the other.  After every…

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    Drawing Your Map!

    Today, our furnace went out.  Driving all over town looking for a part when it’s 5 degrees outside is not my idea of fun.  I definitely have more important and pressing things to do.  I stopped at Starbucks for a Skinny Caramel Macchiato.  Surely that would make me feel better.  Nope, it didn’t.  Now I wanted to stuff my face with chocolate or a freshly baked cookie.  I hate stress eating!!  It’s gotten worse in the recent past. That’s another story for another day though. I pressed on with my irritating day and just did what needed to be done.  Got the part I needed so that I could be…

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    Affirmations and Validation

    It’s no secret.  I need validation.  It’s a part of who I am.  Is that narcissistic?  Maybe.  Is it selfish?  Maybe.  But the fact of the matter is that I do.  On a daily basis I look for the approval of others to complete daily tasks and make certain decisions.  I worry about what so-and-so will think if I make this decision and that. You may ask yourself how that is possible for someone who is such a hermit.  Well, it’s complicated.  And my therapist loves that I pay her big bucks to figure this out. So yes…I need affirmation and validation from people on a daily basis.  Which is…

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    Refocus

    As another year closes, I am reminded of the blessings I have received from The Ruffled Daisy. The last two weeks of the year always brings a time of relaxation for me. It’s a time to celebrate with family and enjoy the small amount of time away from business to recollect all my thoughts about the year I have completed and plan for the future. As I file away past orders, brainstorming files and notes I am reminded of the special pieces “you” have asked me to design. Pieces that have signified new births and new marriages. Pieces that have been created to remember loved ones passed. Many custom family…

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    I Am

    “I Am”   I am tired and broken. I wonder who shares in my pain and sorrow. I hear the oceans speak. I see a princess in a castle. I want to be free to know my soul completely. I am tired and broken.   I pretend to know who I am. I feel the sun kiss my skin. I touch the light of the moon. I cry for my angel. I am tired and broken.   I understand pain. I say “believe and have faith”. I dream of internal quietness. I try to do my best. I hope my chaotic soul is quieted. I am tired and broken.  

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    I See You

    Dear Friend, I see you. I see you laughing at a park playdate smiling and chatting with other moms as you push your toddler on the swing while keeping another eye on your five-year old climbing on monkey bars.  I see you dressed in the latest fashionable chevron scarf to match your perfectly chosen outfit.  I see you going on dates with your husband and on ladies night with your girlfriends in order to nurture each of those relationships so that they fulfill your desires.  I see you going to church and bible studies and trekking your kids to all of the activities that you put them in to help…

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    Roller Coaster Wounds

    I’ve heard people say that life is a roller coaster and you don’t always know where it is taking you.  It can have its series of ups and downs and where you feel like you’re being turned inside out.  You will also have patches of where you are able to leisurely enjoy the ride and bask in the lack of excitement for the moment.  There is an operator on that roller coaster and they know what’s next in the journey although you may not. My life has been on a roller coaster of sorts lately.  It seems to be a roller coaster that is out of control though.   The operator…

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    Letting Go of Your Knives!

    Knives are sharp.  When used properly, they serve a purpose but when used improperly, they inflict pain. I was at dinner with my husband this past weekend and typical of many dinners without kids, we had the chance to talk about things other than sports and what the kids wanted.  When that happens, we tend to talk about our own wins and losses for the week.  Sometimes the wins are greater and sometimes the losses are greater. On this particular evening, my hubby was venting about a few things he was feeling.  Let me remind you that we are polar opposites in the way that we see and deal with…

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    Love and Commitment

    Love and Commitment.  These words go hand in hand when you are talking about marriage.  That doesn’t mean that it all comes easy though. In the beginning, it’s all easy.  You meet someone you are attracted to, want to spend all of your time with, and share all of your life dreams with.  It’s easy.  You love this person with your whole being.  You want to commit to making this person the happiest and vice versa.  You envision a life of nothing but happiness because you vow to let nothing keep you from that. Then it gets hard.  Life gets hard.  You create a family.  You share this oneness but…

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    I Need This Reminder Today

    Today, I need this reminder. Let them be little! Stained carpets, messy rooms, fingerprinted walls… Little white lies, hiding from trouble,  dishonesty… I must remember that these are all parts of growing up…. Let them be little…for they won’t be like this for long! I love my kiddos.  I don’t think they always “feel” it though.

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    A Gentle Reminder

    My Work I have the greatest work in the world; The job of rocking a baby to sleep, That of guiding his tottering feet, A baby’s clothes to launder and fold, A precious life to shape and mold, A drink to give from a little cup, At night his toys to gather up, Hurts to heal and fears to quell, A baby to keep clean and well, A stack of diapers to put, Oh, what a happy worthwhile day! I am a “Mother.” I have the greatest work in to world; A husband to encourage when things go wrong, When he comes from work to greet with a song, Denims…