It’s easy to say no, but do you feel good about it when you do? Join me as I share Snippets From My Soul navigating towards a better you!
Women are socialized from a young age to make others feel good to the sacrifice of ourselves. We’re taught to “let people down easy”. We’re not taught how to say a clear and direct “NO”. As wives and mothers we are constantly being pulled to do things for others, so many times it can feel hard to say “no”.
NO is something we have to learn but NO is also something we also have to earn.
In my creative business I have a passion for creating for people. I’ve been creating for many years and a few years into my business, I started to suffer from an overwhelming sense of burnout and resentment. Resentment towards myself that I wasn’t able to provide what I wanted to for my customers. And also resentment that I was beginning to let my customers down when I couldn’t meet deadlines because I took on too much. What I’ve learned….
Did you read through the lines there – sometimes a “no” can simply be rephrased to a “not right now”. If you are honest with where you are with all of your other commitments, two things will happen. The person requesting will respect the load that you have and graciously accept your “no” – or they will be completely OK with you taking on their request when it is convenient for you.
I’m telling you – saying no THE RIGHT WAY makes you feel so much better!! I thought for sure that the more clients and orders I took on, the more $ I would make, and the happier I would be because I was doing what I loved….creating!
WRONG! None of us is superwoman (in the sense that we know it) even if we like to think we are.
I’d much rather be the following definition of Superwoman:
You have to learn to say no without feeling guilty.
Setting boundaries is healthy and crucial.
Know your limits to your time, energy and interests.
It’s time for you to learn to say now and feel good about it!
What are your thoughts? I’d love to hear some of them in the comments.