Why would anyone want to be less than perfect? That would make life easy, right! It seems like the easy road – but it’s that harsh inner voice telling us to be perfect that destroys us and keeps us from following the amazing path before us. Striving and driving yourself to perfection actually destroys you. It has at times stopped me from making art, kept me from intimacy, and kept me from building relationships. I didn’t want to show up unless I was perfect and it stopped me from doing so many things. I turned down a lot of opportunities to ensure that no one found out how imperfect I was.
People say “Strive for excellence!” Let me tell you – perfectionism is unrealistic. Those perfect dreams and perfect relationships and perfect life that you are trying to achieve – it’s worthless. Because it can’t and won’t be perfect! Striving for perfection is painful, isolating and paralyzing. I am sure that you can look back to a point in your life when you wanted everything to be perfect and it was a task that took a toll on you. We have to let your perfectionisms go little by little. It doesn’t mean that we have to stop trying to achieve greatness – just know that if you screw up along the way, you pick yourself back up and keep trying. You will never achieve fullness in all of you while trying to be perfect. You will never be able to love fully. You will never be able to give fully.
So how do you avoid perfectionism and the control it has on your life?