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Love and Commitment. These words go hand in hand when you are talking about marriage. That doesn’t mean that it all comes easy though.
Then it gets hard. Life gets hard. You create a family. You share this oneness but at the same time you see and feel differences. Money starts getting tight. It’s harder to put food on the table because there are so many demands that need to be met and there never seems to be enough money at the end of the month. You start seeing each other with different eyes because your “needs” are not being met. Maybe you’ve grown a little fluffier around the waist or they’ve grown the facial hair you never liked. It becomes “easy” to see all that is wrong.
If you’re a dad providing for your family, the stresses can be unbearable sometimes. Whether or not you are the sole bread winner or not, it may seem at times like you are on a hamster wheel in a cage that you can’t get off of. It’s the same thing day in and day out and the only reward you get at the end of the day is maybe a “sweet dreams” from the ones you do it all for. No special medal here.
Then you have friends. Friends are great things to have – in times of joy and sorrow. Friends can offer great support to you at different times and you will come to realize that as you walk through life. You will have MANY friends throughout this journey. They are the little pieces of gold that you go digging for in hopes to find someday! They truly are a dime a dozen. You also have to realize that friends come and go and whether or not it is something that was expected, it hurts.
So how do you make life easier??
And what about that extended family? I can tell you with mine, I have to take them all with a grain of salt. What does that mean? A grain of salt is TINY! That’s the thought you should give it. You will know in your heart when you need to listen more or happily nod your head in agreement to please them. It’s as simple as that.
When it’s hard, try to remember what your goal in life and your marriage is. Maybe you and your spouse have forgotten what that is. If so, then it’s definitely time to sit down and reassess what it is and get back on track. It’s OK to veer off the beaten path sometimes. We all do! There are some beautiful things you will stumble upon when you take side roads. BUT, it’s also the easiest way to get lost. Remember this life you are creating with your mate and know that as some point in time, when the kids are grown and gone, you will have to look across the room at this person and it’s better to call them your best friend than a stranger. Too often in today’s society it is the latter.
If you need some help, check out The Love Dare Book! It’s a great book to REFOCUS your heart and your mind back to what matters.
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Tonganoxie • Kansas
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You have become quite the amazing and intuitive young woman. I wanted to say that I am proud of you and the family that you have. You are not the lone black sheep of our family, you share that role with a couple of us. Being different isn't always bad, it has it's rewards as well.
Thanks for the blog Beth. This last paragraph was something I needed to 'hear' right now…it is easy to get busy and push spouses to the side, only to have trouble reconnecting because too much time has gone by!