3 SIMPLE Steps to Be.Come

It's Never to late to be who you might have been!

Be.Come?  What in the heck does that even mean in real life?  Maybe this is simple for you and you figured it out when you were 7 years old.  I like to do things the hard way though, so it’s taken me 40 years to even remotely begin to figure it out.

Put simply, “to become” means to begin to be or be something specified (to have a specific quality, to look attractive on, to be flattering to, to be suitable for, to be proper for).

Isn’t that what we all want?  To have a specific quality that we LIVE for?  A quality that makes us attractive to others – whether it be friendly or romantic?  A quality that is flattering to anyone who sees us walking down the street?  A quality that is suitable and accepting and proper for the earthly world?

Be.coming in society can be such a challenging task.  We have so many things that tell us how we “should” be living.  We are bombarded with Pinterest, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook (to name a few) that shows that we just don’t meet the standards of everyone else out there.  We don’t stop to realize that everyone else is just showing their “perfect” parts.  I can guarantee you that the person who has the spotless house that she just showcased for everyone on Instagram to see, has a complete mess of dried oatmeal remnants from a toddler on the counter and a mountain of laundry that has been rifled through to find “something half-way clean” to wear for the day.  The problem….that is all BEHIND the camera.

So how do you compete with that?  First all all…..BE REAL and know that THAT isn’t real!

After you realize that, it’s time to …begin to be…  to BE.COME!  It is NEVER to late to be who you “might” have been.  Do you remember being a teenager and ever wondering how you were going to ever make it to 30 because life was just plain hard and you didn’t know how you were ever going to be able to live it.  But I bet you did…I bet you made it past the point that you ever thought you would.

Even though you “made” it I can almost bet you have lots of hard days.  I’m going to share with you how to truly Be.Come.  Because like I said, it’s taken me 40 years to figure out what that even means for me.

You need to give yourself permission.  Permission to BE who you were meant to become even when you don’t know what that is.  Through this process you WILL figure it out.  I promise!  If you don’t, it just means that you need to work through the steps again.

Give yourself permission to SEE!

Throughout life you are being surrounded by so many lights.  The lights of the world, the lights of others, the lights of your job, the lights of your passion, the lights of your family, the lights of your friend; the list is endless. Although many of those lights can be brighter than they’ve ever been, it becomes so easy to lose sight of the one TRUE light!  The one light that can help you see when those lights dim or burn out.  How many times have you had the light of a family member, friend or a job dim or completely burn out and that “relationship” is gone?  During those times you have to recognize that there is still one LIGHT!   The light that guides you on your path daily and will NEVER dim or diminish!    “Your word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light to my path.” Psalm 119:105

Give yourself permission to FEEL!

Fear is the one emotion that we all try to avoid.  But think about it….fear does not prevent us from falling…fear prevents us from standing up!!  We don’t fall because of fear, we fall because of normal human nature (sin) and fear is what prevents us from standing up and moving forward!  Fear is linked to a negative emotion and so we do all we can to avoid “feeling” it.  We need to recognize that ALL emotions have a positive purpose that serves us….even fear.  It alerts us to threats, it’s a signal that you’re learning, and it alerts you to be aware of what’s important to you.  You need to also recognize that fear presents itself in many negative forms – anger and confusion, just to name a few.  The next time you FEEL fear, EMBRACE IT!  Stop and remind yourself that fear works for the well-being of yourself and then FEEL it and recognize what purpose the fear is serving.

Give yourself permission to BE AN ASS!

Be proud to be a donkey!  Think about it…donkey’s are not easily startled – they have a keen sense of curiosity.  Donkey’s have a reputation for stubbornness to protect their safety.  Donkeys are independent in their thinking and reasoning.  Donkeys bond with their owner and are one-person animals.  So how does that equate to YOU?  Be curious!  Don’t be startled by random things that happen to you or around you but be curious about the things that they are teaching you.  Even when they present challenging situations, ask yourself what you can gain from it.  Be stubborn in your beliefs!  It will protect your faith and all you believe in.  Be like a donkey and bond with your owner – remember the one true light, GOD!  Bond with him!  Don’t be afraid!  Be curious!  Be independent!

There you have it!  Give yourself permission to SEE, FEEL and BE AN ASS!!  Go and follow the one true light, feel fear when it presents itself and appreciate ass-like characteristics!

Much love!!!  Go forth and live fully and share love 🙂


  • Kathleen

    Great post. I think we get so caught up in the day to day functioning that we sometimes forget that we were put on this Earth for a purpose and that we need to see out that purpose and be what we were meant to be. I have a painting on my wall that my daughter made me that says, “What we do with our life is our gift to God”. So becoming what we are meant to be is our gift to Him who gave us life.

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