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  • Inspiration

    2 Steps to Claiming Your Magical JOY

    What is Joy?  According the to english dictionary is is an emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires. In order to have magical joy you have to chose yourself. Let me follow up by saying that this isn’t a post about selfishness!  Selfishness in the sense of the word is having NO CARE for others around you.  When you are done reading today, you will see what in loving yourself, you can love those around you with an even greater power! I was in the dollar spot at Target and as if being there wasn’t already my favorite; add in…

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    Dear Teenage Son

    Dear Son, You are foraging into tough years.  I know that and I see it.  Please know, that these years are going to be hard for me also.  Yes, I’ve been a teenager, but now I am experiencing all of it with new eyes.  Please be patient with me as I will be patient with you. Let’s get the first, and most awkward talk, out-of-the-way.  Girls.  I will have HIGH expectations for the girl you will bring around.  I will be jealous.  Yes, I know that sounds weird but you will understand when you have your own little girl.  I will understand that there will be girls you don’t bring…

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    What’s My Definition – Five Ways to Find Yours!

    At some point in everyone’s life, we all ask the question – what’s my definition? Life circumstances “shape” who we are but they don’t necessarily “define” who we are.  SHAPE means to influence the development of something or to help something become what it is. DEFINE means to state the “precise” meaning of. Clear as mud, right?!? Think of it this way… It’s time for your loved ones to plan your funeral.  You’re gone.  There will be many stories about the life that shaped who you were. Those stories are simply that – they shaped who you were as a person. What defines you (your definition) is something so much…

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    Creating A Spa On A Budget

    In home spa

    When people think of a spa they think of “expensive”.  I know I do.  While I would love to have spa days at least once a month where someone else does all of the prepping and pampering, real life doesn’t let that happen.  Creating a spa on a budget in your own home doesn’t have to be expensive though.  AND, you can get the same added benefits of paying hundreds of dollars for someone else to create one for you. Creating your own spa is easy when you use your 5 senses!  It’s that simple! Sight – candles are the first thing that people think of when it comes to…

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    I Hope You Fail – How It Will Make You A Better Person

    I hope you fail!  I really do! When someone says “failure” usually the words that come to mind are sadness, fear, making a fool of myself, desperation, panic, shame, and heartbreak. But here’s what else you need to know about that word!  Helping, generous, openness, knowledge, bravery and courageous are all built from failure. To pretend that we can get to the latter emotions without feelings the pains of failure is a dangerous and misguided assumption. Your failure is guiding you to greater things. It is preparing you for interactions with others in which you will be viewed as the brave one and the generous one. You ever have those…

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    10 Books Every Woman MUST Read

    I LOVE reading – so much so that it can seem to take over my life sometimes.  Especially if I find a REALLY good book.  I’m sure you have all read a book like that a time or two.  There are so many benefits to reading! Reading chills you out!  Life can be pretty exhausting sometimes and picking up a good light-hearted book is the perfect medicine! It helps you focus!  Reading helps you maintain and increase your focus. Your empathy grows!  Learning and reading about other people’s lives automatically gives us more empathy to the people around us. Self-help books can ease the symptoms of depression!  They automatically give…

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    This Is YOUR Mountain to Climb and How To Do It When You Don’t Have the Energy!

      That hard time you’re in – have you ever considered that maybe it’s the mountain you’ve been assigned to tackle!?! [bctt tweet=”Maybe, you are meant to climb it and prove the strength and determination to yourse lf and God!” username=”RuffledDaisy”] Maybe, you are meant to climb it so you can share with others at the top that it IS possible! Maybe, you are supposed to forge a new path and get around it or over it in an way that is a little unconventional! This is YOUR mountain! It’s been assigned to you because GOD believes that you can handle it! [bctt tweet=”You’re going to experience wind, snow and…

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    Reclaiming Your Life – Printable Download

    2017 for me has been a year of LOTS of changes!  Changes that were welcome and changes that weren’t.  Changes that stripped me down to my core and changes that built me up.  Every January people make resolutions with the greatest intentions that this will be “their BEST year”!  Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to start the year with such great intention and motivation.  What’s hard is coming back to the plans that you had when things get hard and life knocks you down.   You have a resolution to lose weight?  You get knocked down and off track when you get off track for a bit. You have…

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    Holding Others As We Are Held

    Babies are born with a preciousness that is beyond explanation.  The term precious means “honorable” and “of great worth not to be wasted or treated carelessly”.  We hold every newborn with a sense of preciousness.  Even in holding them, we are extra cautious..  They are innocent from the sins of the world and bring a sense of great worth when they come into being. Then we grow up.  As a toddler we commit sins in a selfish nature when we don’t want to share a certain doll or toy truck.  Simple, but nonetheless, a selfish sin.  As we grow older we may commit other, greater sins.  Maybe as a teenager…

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    Finding the Beauty in Your Struggle

    The caterpillar and the butterfly is the epitome of beauty grounded in struggle.  The process of morphing from a caterpillar into a butterfly is actually a very painful process.  It’s hard to see when we are in the middle of the struggle, but when you arrive on the other side, 99% of the time, you begin to see where the beauty was hidden or when it emerged.  Even in death there is more waiting to be seen.  For almost everything, the beauty of the struggle is there waiting to be seen. It’s no secret that I suffer from depression.  Some say it’s due to circumstances surrounding me and others say…

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    Success at Work VS Success at Home

    Business’s grow a lot faster than people do!  With the rise of social media, businesses can sky rocket through the roof and if you aren’t personally keeping up then you’ll get left behind.  This year, The Ruffled Daisy celebrated 8 years of being in business!  It’s been an amazing 8 years but it’s also been a challenging 8 years.  Running a business on your own (with just the hubby’s help) is a lot of work.  Some days were spent not giving enough to my husband and kids because the business needed me.  Some days were spent stressed and frazzled because I didn’t have enough hands or hours in the day.…

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    Thank you!

    Thank You to those that have hurt me.  You have made me a stronger person.  You have shown me who I do not want to be.  You have helped me see what I need.  You have given me the clarity when seeking relationships. Thank You to those that have loved me.  You have helped me see what love really is – even when it hurts sometimes.  You have made my heart a little bigger.  You have made my soul a little happier.  You have shown me that giving love is receiving love. Thank You to those that have believed in me.  You have made me feel worth it.  You have…

  • Business Life

    5 Things No One Tells You About Being an Entrepreneur!

    Wanna ROCK living the American Dream?? Oh, the American dream of being an Entrepreneur! People wanting to work for themselves and not having to punch a time clock or answer to anyone else.  After all, if you can do what you love then WHY NOT?!  There are lots of benefits of working for yourself. It’s on your schedule. You set the bar on what you want to make. You are your own boss – simple as that. You get to experiment and not be subjected to the rigid rules of a corporation. Look at social media!  ALL of the entrepreneurs portray that they have their shit together and life is…

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    It’s an Ugly Beast!!

    I’ve tried for several years to make a name for me.  Something that made me feel accepted.  Something that was mine.  Something that I needed others’ approval to succeed in.  But it failed.  It’s ok.  Because in the long run, it doesn’t matter what you give and share to others, if you are doing for the glory of kudos, then you will end up empty.  You have to be doing it from your heart.  Don’t get me wrong…all of my creations and writings are from my heart, but the disconnect comes from when you are wanting to feel the acceptance from others and not always getting it.  Depression talks to…

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    Pearls of Wisdom – Jennifer Wiltse

    It is one of my heart’s desires to encourage women to be all that they can be.  Life is tough and many times, we make it harder on ourselves than we need to.  We are made to be amazing beings!  And while we ARE amazing – we are far from perfect.  Life is all about embracing our imperfections and making them beautiful. Those beautiful imperfections are what defines you.  It is in those imperfections that we are called to share and create beauty with others.  Just like a smooth marble has beauty, so does a rough and callused oyster shell.  An oyster shell is made to withstand a rough and tumble…

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    Pearls of Wisdom – Terri Brest

    It is one of my heart’s desires to encourage women to be all that they can be.  Life is tough and many times, we make it harder on ourselves than we need to.  We are made to be amazing beings!  And while we ARE amazing – we are far from perfect.  Life is all about embracing our imperfections and making them beautiful. Those beautiful imperfections are what defines you.  It is in those imperfections that we are called to share and create beauty with others.  Just like a smooth marble has beauty, so does a rough and callused oyster shell.  An oyster shell is made to withstand a rough and tumble…

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    Your Fire Will Free You

    Anger is a powerful force.  It is both beautiful and destructive.  It has the power to change yourself and the world. Anger is what brought her here again.  The place that she has been frequenting far too often.  Her anger doesn’t change who she is to please someone else.  She’s done with that.  She no longer let her tears dampen her cheeks and fall to the ground.  Her tear puddles were dry.  It took a lot of pain to be here and pain may be what keeps her here.  Her anger is beautiful in a sense that she is taking control of her life – and yet destructive in that…

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    Her Tree of Life

    She is born from a fragile seed. Planted and nourished to grow into amazingness. The seed begins to sprout and emerge from the ground showing signs of life. It faces the sun with each day and hunkers down in the darkness.  Through the years of growing and maturing, she grows stronger and taller not knowing what storms and showers will come her way. As each season passes, she embraces the changes that each brings.  In spring, her soul is on fire and she is being reborn into the creature that God created. She is pursuing her dreams and running after all the newness that life brings. She is blooming and…

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    Have Courage To Follow Your Own Path

    We don’t always know what our path is. Paths take sharp turns sometimes and other times they are gentle. Sometimes there are steep hills to climb and other times there may be downed trees to move so you can clear the way for you to continue. At the end of the path is God. Waiting for you, to tell you “job well done”. You’re gonna fall. You’re gonna skin your knee and there are times you may break some bones. You start on this path by yourself and you pick you people along the way go help you navigate it. Some of those people take a turn that you aren’t…

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    Middle of Nowhere or Center of Everything?

    Middle of nowhere or center of everything? Middle of nowhere – the place of no contact with anyone or anything. Lost and distant from the connection in the world around you. Nothing that you know or anything that brings you comfort is around. The place where you feel fear and anxiety. Focus is on what you lack in the world. Center of everything – the place of centeredness and centering your soul. Connecting with the world even if no one is around. The vast openness brings you comfort in knowing there are things greater than you. A place to become grounded in who you are. A place where you feel…

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    It’s Time To Live Your Dreams

    Be a BOLD girl with BIG and AMAZING DREAMS! 1. Value your time! ⏰ It’s a precious thing. Fill it with only things that inspire, encourage and grow you. If it doesn’t make you whole, let it go! 2. Know you’re a work in progress! ? Understand that you are flawed and a sinner and that you are constantly in the path to being a better you. Don’t look down on your weaknesses, look up to your strengths. Let them guide you. 3. Know that you have a beautiful mind! ? You are constantly learning and striving. You have interesting things to talk about and to teach other people. Expand…

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    Progress is Sometimes Baby Steps – 3 EASY steps to your success!

    Struggles and failures are always going to happen.  They are put in your path to achieving your dreams for a purpose!  Don’t be discouraged!  The dream you have in your head is the dream GOD put there!  And HE is the one working it to fruition in HIS timing.  Sometimes that may take a different path or a different time frame than what you actually thought planned.  Stay the course! Just because you aren’t making progress of fast as you think you should be, does not mean that you aren’t making progress. When you hit the point of feeling like you aren’t making progress in your dreams, take a step…

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    Putting on My Mask

    Here we go again. Every single morning. I hate you. I despise you. Yet I have to deal with you every…single…day for the rest of my life. You help me have “somewhat” of a normal life. You help me not be “crazy”.  You keep me “happy”. For the most part. But I hate taking you I hate having to depend on you to keep me from drowning in my life challenges that most normal people can deal with on a daily basis. I hate having my husband look at me some days and say, “have you taken your medicine?” because believe it or not, he knows when I haven’t.  I’m too difficult to deal…

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    Your Blessings Start at Home

    “Create a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside”.  Let’s face it, there are some days where life just feels downright crummy on the inside!  We get “stuck” in the day to day treachery of living the best life we can and sometimes we can barely see above the pile of dirty laundry or dishes to ever see where we can be a blessing to others.  I’ve always likened life to a series of mountains and valleys.  We all hit the valleys of despair and rise to the mountain tops to rejoice!  You can’t have one without the other.  After every…

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    Drawing Your Map!

    Today, our furnace went out.  Driving all over town looking for a part when it’s 5 degrees outside is not my idea of fun.  I definitely have more important and pressing things to do.  I stopped at Starbucks for a Skinny Caramel Macchiato.  Surely that would make me feel better.  Nope, it didn’t.  Now I wanted to stuff my face with chocolate or a freshly baked cookie.  I hate stress eating!!  It’s gotten worse in the recent past  That’s another story for another day though. I pressed on with my irritating day and just did what needed to be done.  Got the part I needed so that I could be…

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    Affirmations and Validation

    It’s no secret.  I need validation.  It’s a part of who I am.  Is that narcissistic?  Maybe.  Is it selfish?  Maybe.  But the fact of the matter is that I do.  On a daily basis I look for the approval of others to complete daily tasks and make certain decisions.  I worry about what so-and-so will think if I make this decision and that. You may ask yourself how that is possible for someone who is such a hermit.  Well, it’s complicated.  And my therapist loves that I pay her big bucks to figure this out. So yes…I need affirmation and validation from  people on a daily basis.  Which is…

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    Love and Commitment

    Love and Commitment.  These words go hand in hand when you are talking about marriage.  That doesn’t mean that it all comes easy though. In the beginning, it’s all easy.  You meet someone you are attracted to, want to spend all of your time with, and share all of your life dreams with.  It’s easy.  You love this person with your whole being.  You want to commit to making this person the happiest and vice versa.  You envision a life of nothing but happiness because you vow to let nothing keep you from that. Then it gets hard.  Life gets hard.  You create a family.  You share this oneness but…